Trick(y things in my life right now) or treat(s for not drinking)

Trick(y things in my life right now)

About five minutes ago (approximately 4:30 pm East Coast time), I found myself hiding in the corner of my kitchen eating chocolate cake so that my daughter would not see me.  I cut myself a decent size slice and then had to go back and even up the edges... of course the cake has to be even!  It has nothing to do with me wanting a bit more!

I just got an email from match.com, offering to "Let a pro write your profile.  Our top-notch writers can make your personality shine.  Make your profile more appealing."  So apparently Match.com recognizes that I am in a dating slump - this could be a new low for me.  I then tried to persuade my daughter to take pictures of me playfully about to bite a tortilla chip, or with my hand on my hip (which was shifted to the side ever so slightly) as I grinned over my shoulder, so that I could add some pizazz to my profile pictures.  Apparently my daughter, who did not know my ulterior motive for said photos, did not think they were apropos, as she asks me if I was trying to scar her for life.

Yesterday, my dumb ass ex husband told me that he let his 12 year old step daughter take our 8 year old daughter and her 8 year old step brother to the movies...without consulting me first.  This really pissed me off, as I don't think it was a wise choice (I guess I am conservative and perhaps over protective as a parent) and I felt like he should have at least talked to me first.

This weekend, a friend of mine from high school is having her 40th birthday weekend with a bunch of girls from high school and college.  I will not be going for two reasons - first reason - I need to work on getting ready for comps exam and preparing for dissertation, and two - I am not drinking.  I feel as if I am in a strange no where land...kind of wanting to go, but kind of glad I'm not.  I know that I am doing the right thing for me, but I can't help but to feel as if I am missing out.

But, the good news about all of these tricky things in my life is that I am still not drinking and I am still breathing.

Treat(s for not drinking)

So Belle, who is running the 100 day sober challenge, in which I am participating, sent me my first homework assignment. This assignment was the kind of work that I can get into.  I was to compile a list of treats that I can use to reward myself every two days for not drinking.  Here is the list that I have come up with thus far:

• new herbal or green tea K-cups ( I have decided to become a tea drinker in the evening)
• Either sugar cubes or some kind of cute honey to sweeten said tea
• Coffee mugs (in which aforementioned tea will be consumed)
• scented lotion
• scented Body wash
• celebrity gossip magazine (People or Us weekly)
• Cute new cup (preferably with a lid and ideally with a built in infuser) out of which I can drink non-alcoholic beverages
• Tervis Tumbler
• chocolate bar from Whole Foods (they have chocolate raspberry and chocolate orange - yummo!)
• new ebook on sober life on iPad

Do any of you use sober treats to reward yourself?  If so, to what have you treated yourself?